Is it possible to own a smartphone and still be happy? Seriously. Like, really happy?
I remember when the first iPhone came out. I wanted it so bad. I felt like if I didn’t get it I would somehow be incomplete. The funny thing is, now that I’ve had several iPhones, it’s almost become easier to feel incomplete than when I had none.
The main cause for this is that smartphones make us—me, you—want more. They make information about what we could have, but don’t, not only accessible, but addicting to consume.
Whether it’s reading the news (and finding out about recently minted technology millionaires or billionaires), discovering all of the exciting places on Instagram everyone seems to be visiting, noticing all the subscribers various self-made YouTube stars have acquired or simply perusing all the new apps in the app store I can’t or won’t have time to try, my smartphone is great at planting seeds of discontent in my life.
And it’s not just seeing things that I don’t have but want or can’t have. It’s the nature of the way the information is presented. It’s constant. It’s instant. If I’m not constantly checking for what is new “out there” as perceived through my smartphone, I feel like I might be missing out on something. But I’m also missing out on “real life” every time I swipe to unlock my iPhone. In either case I’m missing out… on something.
One could argue that there were always avenues for finding things you might want but didn’t or couldn’t have. Like magazines, for instance, or seeing a Ferrari pass you on the Interstate.
But the images from magazines didn’t nag you to view them with push notifications. And seeing a Ferrari in the wild was only ever a rare occurrence. These types of discontent-inducing input were never as ubiquitous before the dawn of the smartphone. Now its all in your pocket. And thanks to devices like Google Glass, the path from input to brain is getting ever shorter.
I used to think I’d be content as the owner of a smartphone. But now I realize smartphones themselves, not only the content they contain, breed discontent by design. I’d go as far as to say that discontentment is hard-coded into the DNA of all smartphones.
Think about it: Apple and Samsung aren’t going to make any money unless you upgrade your old phone to the latest iPhone or Galaxy model. And what’s the only way to make you want to upgrade? To make you feel like you’re missing out. To make you want more. To make you discontent.
For someone who wants to be happy it seems counterintuitive to own a smartphone. But this is a conundrum because smartphone’s do have a lot to offer. They can make us more productive and they do make it easier to communicate. In reality, they are essential to the way we live our daily lives.
So how can a person be happy AND own a smartphone? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I’ve got a few ideas you can try.
Ultimately, as any conversation about contentment will conclude (smartphone or no smartphone), you’ve got to be happy with what you’ve got. This doesn’t mean settling for less—you can and should always strive to better yourself. But you’ve got to ask yourself if X will make you better. Or happier. Will that new iPhone make you better? Happier? What about that Instagram update? Will knowing it right now, instead of in a day, change your life in a profound way?
Something for you to consider. As a tech writer, I get a lot of fun tech toys to play with. From amazing speakers to computers to robots software and apps and all kinds of things in-between. There was one particular smart-guitar I wanted since I first heard about. I wished I could have it for months. Eventually I finally got it. It was fun, for a while, but my life went on just about the same as it had before.
The big point I’m trying to make is… stuff won’t make you happy. Whether it’s physical stuff—like a smart guitar you've been wanting forever—or digital stuff—knowing the latest news, updates, videos, etc.
So be happy with what you've got. Right now. In front of you. You know, the “real world.” The non-digital. Especially the people (and relationships) around you.
How? By disconnecting. Not cold turkey, of course. No need (or way) for that. But carve out some carve out some time where you can take a break from your pixel-driven world and enjoy the physical world. Divide and conquer.
It’s actually easier than you think. Use your phone’s do not disturb mode to give yourself 3 hours of no-phone time before bed. Take a weekend (or at least one day of the weekend, or most of a day…) to be phone-free.
In all honesty, every time I intentionally take a break from technology I become more productive.
And there’s an interesting affect: the more time you spend away from your smartphone, the more you appreciate it. And the more time you spend away from the “real world” (which you do all the time because you’re always on your smartphone) the more you appreciate it. So taking deliberate time to enjoy both is much more rewarding than drowning one out.
And the crazy thing is, when you do take a break from your digital life, it’ll all be there waiting for you when you come back.
To illustrate, I’ll tell you about my Vine experience to-date. I joined the mini-video-sharing social network a few months back, posted two videos, got little traction in the way of followers and eventually stopped opening the app. A few months later I got curious and opened it up and to my surprise had gained 70 followers—with no interaction on my part.
To sum things up, I have to say that I want more out of life than to be a smartphone zombie. I want to be more balanced. I want to enjoy the people around me. I want to be happier, even though my smartphone wants me to be discontent. And I will be.